Dec 24, 2021
At the top of the episode,
Sherry and Carla talk about what “breadcrumbing” is in dating, and
what to do if you think someone is just offering you crumbs. Then,
they take a Love Fix Question on how long it takes to unlearn
codependent habits and welcome Conscious Codependence Coach Cheryl
Fidelman to the show. Cheryl talks about her mission to eradicate
trauma from the human condition, one nervous system at a time.
Cheryl developed her attunement practice called Feeling Without
Thinking to help her clients heal from trauma and become the person
they were inherently born to be. She talks about the three tenets
of co-dependence, how to give yourself compassion if you have been
or currently are co-dependent, and why self-love is the North Star
for true independence and healing.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question: how long does it take to
get over being codependent?
- Cheryl started focusing on codependence 6 years
into her work, as she saw it was an epidemic that plagued so many
of her clients.
- What are the signs of conscious
- What are the three tenets of
- The importance of having compassion for
yourself if you did end up in a relationship with a narcissist or
if you are codependent.
- Dating is a great way to practice our skills,
but should we wait to heal ourselves before diving in?
- Find out more about Cheryl’s Conscious Codependent Listening
Program, along with ways
to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up,
healing from toxic relationships, and gaining
- How do our romantic relationships mimic the
environment we grew up in as children?
- How is codependency rooted in unhealed
- Recovery doesn’t mean you never have any
codependent actions, but that you are conscious of what you are
doing, and are mindful about your patterns and actions.
- “All of our unhealed trauma can be found in the
filters through which we listen.” - Cheryl
- “Codependency is an epidemic. In almost every
one of my clients, I could see big, red blinking lights of
codependence.” - Cheryl
- “I think it's very empowering as a codependent
to not victimize yourself. Because then you recognize you have
choices.” - Carla
- “Codependency goes beyond being with an addict
or alcoholic. It could also be someone who's attracted to a
narcissist or could be people-pleasing and needing validation.” -
- “I focus through the lens of trauma healing
because I look at codependence as one of the most obvious ways that
we demonstrate our unhealed trauma in relationships.” -
- “Codependency is incubated in some kind of
wound that you had. It starts with that inner child wound and
you're reacting to triggers related to those wounds. Whether it was
that your parents neglected you, you were invisible, you were
abused or you were abandoned.” - Sherry
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Today’s episode is sponsored by
Contagious Love: Break Free from
Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book
Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle
of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting
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