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The Love Fix

Dec 17, 2021

Sherry and Carla kick off this week talking about why you may want to go on that second date, even if the first one didn’t blow you out of the water. Then, they welcome Licensed Clinical Psychologist Dr. Quincee Gideon to the show. As an advocate and doctor for trauma recovery and co-dependency, Dr. Quincee is adamant about helping people live their full and most meaningful life despite a history of trauma or chronic people-pleasing. She discusses the importance of building trust in yourself and being in your body, her virtual education platform called Traumastery, the Big and Little “T’s” of trauma and why both matter, and how trauma comes in all shapes and sizes. 


What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

  • A Love Fix question on what to do when you notice avoidant tendencies popping up immediately after the first date. 
  • Dr. Quincee’s story of trauma work started with trauma. She suffered the traumatic death of a roommate and loved one, and then spent time traveling and working in a war zone in Africa. 
  • What is “Big T” and “Little T” trauma? How are they similar, and how do they differently manifest in our body and emotions? 
  • Dr. Quincee explains complex PTSD, and discusses how whichever modalities work best for you to help you heal from the trauma, is one to keep doing. 
  • Find out more about Dr. Quincee’s Course in Co-Dependency, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
  • Why do trauma survivors tend to be empathic and have a strong intuition? 
  • How do those who have suffered trauma begin to trust their own choices and get realigned with their needs and feelings?
  • Why slowing down and giving yourself the gift of time is so powerful. 
  • What stored trauma in the body can look like.



  •  “Feelings aren’t facts.” - Sherry 
  • “My story of trauma starts with trauma.” - Dr. Quincee
  • “We've got to move from from fear to faith - Sherry 
  • “I think that's why codependent love addicts are so obsessive, because they don't allow themselves the time and go right to obsession.” - Sherry
  • “Time and slowing down seem to be so helpful. If you can allow yourself, it's like the biggest gift you can give yourself is time. - Dr. Quincee 
  •  “Trauma happens in different sizes and shapes.” - Dr. Quincee 
  • “We’ve got to get reacquainted with our bodies instead of being enemies with ou bodies.” - Dr. Quincee 
  • “I find that relationships are so powerful in helping us understand our dynamics.” - Dr. Quincee 
  • “I would say for trauma survivors, particularly those with complex PTSD, getting close to themselves is the most terrifying thing that could be offered along the way.”  - Dr. Quincee


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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.