Feb 18, 2022
Sherry and Carla start by talking about what kind of podcasts they listen to, and Carla confesses her love for a good murder mystery. They take a Love Fix question from a listener that seems like she has the same issues in love, even while dating different men. Then, they welcome Codependency Recovery Coach Hailee Magee, who helps individuals of all ages break the people pleasing patterns, set empowered boundaries, and master the art of speaking their truth. Hailee shares why most people don’t set or stick with their boundaries, and what’s really going on under people's pleasing and codependency patterns, and how to begin starting to keep promises to yourself and gain confidence in saying that magical two letter word: “no”.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question - what do I do when the same issues keep coming up with different men that I date?
- Are co-dependents also manipulative people?
- In order to break the habit of codependency, we need to set boundaries and honor our own needs first.
- Find out more about Hailey’s Codependency Recovery Coaching, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
- If we consistently break promises to ourselves, how do we expect others to respect our boundaries?
- Are boundaries really bendable?
- What was Hailey’s paradigm shifting moment where she worked on her own codependency after a gut wrenching breakup?
- How do we start small to break our patterns of codependency?
- What are some of the biggest reasons people don’t set boundaries?
- What do you do if someone doesn’t respect your boundaries?
- What does Hailee find to be the root cause of pleasing people?
- How do you deal with emotions that come up when you break the people pleasing pattern?
Tweetables:
- “Yes, doing the work is important, but part of that work is being gentle and kind to yourself.” - Carla
- “Feelings aren’t facts.”
- “Co-dependents are extremely manipulative people.” - Carla
- “It’s never productive to break up in the middle of an argument or make a really big life choice when you’re emotionally charged or upset.” - Carla
- “Codependency stems from a dysfunctional relationship with the self.” - Hailey
- “We can't have a conversation about codependency if you don't talk about boundaries.” - Sherry
- “In order to set a boundary and stand up for our needs, we need to know what those needs are.” - Hailey
- “I really do think every boundary with someone else has to originate with an internal boundary with us.” - Hailey
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Find Out More:
Sherry
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Carla
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Hailey Magee
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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.
Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.