Apr 16, 2021
Dealing with a narcissist at home is bad enough, but what if you have to do it in the courtroom as well? This week, Sherry and Carla proudly welcome Rebecca Zung, Narcissism Negotiation Expert and one of the top 1% of attorneys in the nation. Rebecca is the author of the bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R. and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom, and is a sought-after major media contributor. Rebecca talks about the strategies to prepare and protect yourself while dealing with a narcissist, how we can understand how narcissists tend to win over courtrooms for their own advantage, and resources to negotiate with a narcissist should you have to take one on.
What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- A Love Fix Question on how to know if you are with the right partner, and does it mean it’s wrong when there is conflict to sort through?
- How Rebecca used her skills and experience as the top 1% of the attorneys in the nation to understand how narcissists operate and beat them at their own game.
- Why narcissists tend to get their way in the legal system, and how to protect yourself against this.
- Do narcissists even want to settle their legal issues and get peace, or do they get high from jerking you around?
- How to keep going when it feels like your drama with a narcissist will never end!
- Who really has control in the courtroom, and how to use it to your own advantage.
- Rebecca talks about the typical traits of narcissists, and how you can get skilled at unmasking that through her proven strategies.
- Tools such as Rebecca’s “Crush My Negotiation” Worksheet, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
- When dealing with a narcissist, data, facts, and plans are your friends. Keep those receipts!
- What do you do to protect yourself when you aren’t ready to leave?
- Yes, there are female narcissists out there! Rebecca also helps show us how to get that person out of our space.
- How to best cope with PTSD and aftershocks that come after dealing with a narcissist.
- How to break free of the obsession that comes with dealing with a narcissist, no matter what stage of the relationship you are in.
- Options for people who broke up with someone and are being harassed by them.
- Our definition of co-dependents and empaths, and why they seem to be so drawn to narcissists.
Tweetables:
- “For narcissists, you are either for them or against them. Once they realize you are against them, you become enemy number one.” - Rebecca
- “Even if you gave them 100% of everything they wanted, it wouldn’t be good enough.” - Rebecca
- “Document, Document, Document.” - Rebecca
- “If I’m thinking about the drama, trauma, and chaos, I can’t be in creation mode. That is what you are meant to be doing and you can’t be in two places at once.” - Rebecca
- “Detach with compassion.” - Sherry
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Rebbeca
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